Praise for Dr. G’s Books



Praise for Dr. Goldsmith’s Books


Goldsmith draws on his 20-plus years of experience as a therapist and
his weekly “Emotional Fitness” column to help readers achieve a stronger
connection with their partners. His 52 chapters include explanations and
exercises for developing more intimacy, compassion, and understanding.
While some of the tips, such as discussing one’s vulnerabilities,
require courage, others are just fun. Helpful if read cover to cover or
in pieces. Recommended for all public libraries.

Library Journal


Most couples genuinely desire an intimate relationship. Emotional

Fitness for Intimacy is filled with insights and exercises that will

enhance the intimacy level in any relationship. For couples who would

like to see dreams become reality, Dr. Goldsmith points the way.

Dr. Gary D. Chapman,

The Five love Languages and Love As a Way of Life


This book is an encyclopedia of wise and useful information for couples

who want to deepen their relationship. Written by a wise and experience

therapist, couples will find exercises to help them discover and accept

differences, deepen connection and achieve intimacy.

I recommend it to all couples.”

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples


If we value intimacy as much as we say we do,

and if it were possible to construct a “handbook” covering the complexity of relationship,

Dr. Goldsmith’s Emotional Fitness for Intimacy is it.

Organized in manageable chunks, full of practical suggestions, and informed by a sagacity which both illumines and facilitates intimacy, this book brings each reader to more thoughtful,

practical possibilities for his or her relationship.

James Hollis, Ph. D.,

Jungian analyst and author of What Matters Most: Living a More Considered Life.


I found much wisdom in this book expressed in ways which were practical,

easy to understand and incorporate into one’s life style.

Bernie Siegel, MD,

Love, Magic & Miracles and 365 Prescriptions For Living


In this fascinating book Dr. Goldsmith reveals how to keep intimacy alive in relationships,

a beautiful gift to his readers.

Judith Orloff, MD

Positive Energy


“ I don’t have time for books that too long to make their point. That’s why I like this book so much. Each chapter us clear, concise and doesn’t waste either words or pages giving you practical information you can actually use to change your life and your business. This one is a keeper.”

Larry Winget, The Pitbull of Personal Development and NYT Bestselling Author

People Are Idiots and I Can Prove It


Barton knows how to get to the heart of the matter quickly and facilitate deep healing.

Elizabeth Kubler-Ross, M.D. – Author of On Death and Dying



Emotional Fitness for Intimacy offers compelling, practical advice

for understanding true intimacy and for achieving our goals in a successful

love relationship. Dr. Goldsmith provides tips for challenging situations and compromising positions we all face in our love lives, and those who read his book will be ahead in the unending quest for a healthy, rewarding emotional connection.

Susan Shapiro Barash

Little White Lies, Deep Dark Secrets: The Truth About Why Women Lie


Bull’s-eye! Like a Zen archer, Barton Goldsmith releases an arrow into the very center of intimacy. And like a Zen monk he writes with a disarming charm and graceful elegance, creating a book that is fun, funny, yet penetratingly wise. My advice is simple – Read it.

Shawn Christopher Shea, M.D Author of Psychiatric Interviewing: the Art of Understanding


Dr. Barton Goldsmith is the BEST natural born therapist I have ever met.

David Viscott, M.D. – Author of

The Making of a Psychiatrist, TV & Radio Talk Show Host


This book has some very good ideas on how couples can stop their anger

at each other and live more successfully together.

Albert Ellis, Ph.D. – Creator or REBT and Author of A Guide to Rational Living


His articles and books on relationships are right on the mark.

Edward M. Hallowell M.D. – Author of Driven to Distraction,

Dare to Forgive, Worry and Delivered from Distraction


Dr. Goldsmith is a man if integrity and intelligence who tells it like it is in an uplifting manner

that everyone in or out of a relationship needs to hear.

William Glasser, M.D. – Founder and author of Reality Therapy and

Choice Theory: A New Psychology of Personal Freedom.


I can HONESTLY say that Dr. Barton’s book is outstanding – a really terrific combination of good bedside manner, useful/practical information, and common sense.

Anne Sheffield, award winning author of Depression Fallout


As a physician, who has worked with people trying to resolve relationship problems, I found this book to contain a great deal of wisdom, which is made easily accessible to the reader. I have experienced fifty wonderful years of married life and so know the practical steps to emotional fitness for couples shared here are of great value.

Bernie Siegel, M.D. – Author of 365 Prescriptions For Living


Love is all you need…but, you also need a well-written, easy-to-follow roadmap to the heartland. Renowned relationship guru, Barton Goldsmith, has provided this map in Emotional Fitness. It is your guidebook to revitalizing your relationship!

Jeffrey K. Zeig, Ph.D.

Director, The Milton Erickson Foundation

Organizer, The Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference



In Emotional Fitness for Couples, Dr. Barton helps couples become proactive in their relationships by using easy to follow exercises and practical advice that allows them to enhance their interactions and their love.

Gerald G. Jampolsky, M.D.

Author of Love Is Letting Go Of Fear


In Emotional Fitness for Couples, Barton Goldsmith has provided couples with a step by step guide to a healthy relationship. All couples, reading the short chapters and doing the explicit and powerful exercises, save, deepen and transform their relationship. I recommend it for all couples.

Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., Author of

Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples



Emotions have always played a role in business relationships, but too often they have been ‘under the radar’ and ignored. Dr. Goldsmith shines the light on emotions and how they can lead a business to greater levels of success.

Gary Chapman,

The Five Love Languages & Love As a Way of Life


The economic meltdown is causing a tidal wave of emotions in the workplace. People are in fear for their jobs, their financial security and their futures. Many are also angry and confused. In “Emotional Fitness at Work,” Dr. Barton Goldsmith gives us the tools we need to keep our businesses moving forward and to help us weather this storm of panic and pain.

Get it and keep it handy. The information is very useful.

Marjory Abrams,

Publisher, BottomLine Personal


Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., has written a wonderful guide for business leaders and co-workers. His optimistic attitude and story telling, along with quotes from Winston Churchill to Albert Einstein will keep you engaged throughout the book. He teaches to trust your instinct and intuition. You’ll learn the importance of communication, mentoring, and balance. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is emotionally stressed, wanting to improve their workplace,

or just plain curious as to how they can improve their emotional fitness.

Bambi Holzer,

Set for Life & Financial Bliss


Dr. Goldsmith’s book tackles the most important issue facing today’s executive, fear, in a straightforward, effective manner. Only by facing our fears can we overcome them; and only by overcoming our fears can we navigate the new, current realities facing our businesses. Emotional Fitness grants us the tools we need to manage our companies to the next level. Thank you Dr. G!

Brad Oberwager,

CEO Sundria Corp.


This book gives us all the information we need to use the power of our

emotions to help us make it through this difficult and scary time.

Thanks to Dr. Goldsmith we have a road map.

Karen Leland, Co-author

Watercooler Wisdom: How Smart People Prosper In The Face of Conflict, Pressure and Change.



Emotional Fitness at Work, Dr. Barton Goldsmith’s wise and worthy new guide, offers salient advice for how to navigate the workplace in a distinctly twenty-first century terrain. His honest and fresh approach encourages women and men alike to contemplate how their work lives fit into their family and personal lives, and the chance to build a better model. By emphasizing trust, proactivity, compromise and non verbal communication,

Dr. Goldsmith teaches us to use our emotions at work to our advantage.

Susan Shapiro Barash

Little White Lies, Deep Dark Secrets: The Truth about Why Women Lie

Emotional Fitness at Work is a must-have read for anyone currently in the workforce. Using tangible examples, simple prescriptive advice, checklists and thought-provoking exercises, Dr. G gives readers hundreds of tools and ideas on how to enjoy their work, embrace their emotions in a healthy and constructive way, pave the way to take charge of their workplace experience.

Debra Mandel, Ph.D., psychologist and author

Your Boss Is Not Your Mother



New book guides readers in strengthening their relationships —
and its easier than we’ve been lead to believe

“Getting your relationship emotionally fit requires doing something about it on a regular basis. With physical exercise, the more we do, the easier it gets, and emotional fitness works the same way. ”

— Dr. Barton Goldsmith

Just as you cannot wake up one morning and decide to run a marathon in the afternoon, you cannot expect your relationship with your spouse or partner to remain in peak form without daily effort on your part to keep it that way. But who has time? Well, it as it turns out, keeping your relationship in shape can take less time each day than it takes to shave or apply make up.  

Emotional Fitness and Intimacy…

How do you overcome your partner’s fear of intimacy? Someone who, everytime the relationship takes a step forward, finds a way to sabotage it? “When people who fear intimacy do find someone who might actually make a good partner,” Dr. Goldsmith says, “they find some way to hurt them or push them away. [But] Running away from intimacy does not set us free. It controls us.” Emotional Fitness For Couples addresses the issue of intimacy in Part 2 (Chapters 7-15).

… And Sex…

According to Dr. Goldsmith “sex is an all day affair.” Sounds like a popular enough idea, but what he means is that affection and intimacy must be exchanged throughout the day — it’s not just about sex. Part 3 of the book explores exactly what goes into a sexually and emotionally satisfying love life, including creativity, communication, and respect forboundaries.

Some Tips to Reinspire Your Sex Life from Emotional Fitness For Couples

*Act Sexy & You’ll Feel Sexy
Play the part by setting the scene with candle-light and soft music, softer words, lingerie, and great smells.

*Make Your Bedroom A Romantic Hideaway.
Get some silk sheets and soft lights.Having a place to go when the feelings come over you is important to keeping romance alive.

*Talk About Sex
Conversations about love may be one of the most underrated aphrodisiacs.

*Be Creative
Relive your first encounter, kidnap your partner for a weekend getaway-there are so many different ways to be sexy…It’s really hard to do it wrong.

... And More! 

Emotional Fitness For Couples also provides tips on inner happiness, dealing with the outside world, anger, hurt, and effective communication. This book offers a step-by-step program that anyone
can use to hone his or her relationship skills to championship levels!

Raves For Dr. Barton Goldsmith
“This book has some very good ideas on how couples can stop their anger at each other and live more
successfully together.”—Albert Ellis, Ph.D., noted psychologist
and author of A Guide to Rational Living
“Bull’s-eye! Like a Zen archer, Barton Goldsmith releases an arrow into the very center of intimacy. And
like a Zen monk he writes with a disarming charm and graceful elegance, creating a book that is fun,
funny, yet penetratingly wise. My advice is simple—Read it.”—Shawn Christopher Shea, MD, author of Happiness Is and
Psychiatric Interviewing: the Art of Understanding
“Goldsmith is the BEST natural born therapist I have ever met. I thoroughly enjoy working with him.”

—David Viscott, MD, TV and radio talk show host
and author of The Making of a Psychiatrist

“I can HONESTLY say that Goldsmiths’s book is outstanding—a really terrific combination of good
bedside manner, useful and practical information, and common sense.”—Anne Sheffield, award-winning author of
Depression Fallout and How You Can Survive When They’re Depressed
“At last a book that not only guides the reader when it comes to successful relationships but shows us
the value of emotional fitness: communication, nurturance and constancy, in partnering. By subscribing
to Goldsmith’s theory and practice, couples will end up with a more satisfying connection and a better sense of each other’s needs, as well as their own.”—Susan Shapiro Barash, author of
The New Wife: The Evolving Role of the American Wife
“Love is all you need—but, you also need a well-written, easy-to-follow roadmap to the heartland.
Renown relationship guru Barton Goldsmith has provided this map in Emotional Fitness. It is your guidebook to revitalizing your relationship.”

—Jeffrey K. Zeig, Ph.D., director of the
Milton Erickson Foundation and organizer of
the Evolution of Psychotherapy Conference
“In Emotional Fitness for Couples, Goldsmith helps couples become proactive in their relationships by
using easy to follow exercises and practical advice that allows them to enhance their interactions and Raves For Dr. Barton Goldsmith their love.”—Gerald G. Jampolsky, MD, author of
Love Is Letting Go of Fear

Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., has twenty years’ experience as a therapist. The author of a weekly newspaper column with the Scripps Howard News Service, Dr. Goldsmith hosts weekly Los Angeles-area radio shows on NPR station KCLUFM. Dr. Goldsmith regularly gives workshops to the public and maintains the Emotional Fitness E-Newsletter, with a readership of 35,000. He lives in the Los Angeles area with the love of his life and a narcissistic black cat.


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Emotional Fitness For Couples: 10 Minutes a Day to a Better Relationship
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